- Deuteronomy 21:10
- Rashi on Deuteronomy 21:10
- Yeraim, cited in Ritva,cited in Yalkut Meam Loez states “It has not been permitted, only by her consent, he is not allowed to have intercourse with her against her will. Ramban on 21:11, states “it is not proper to sleep with her, in a situation in which she being “forced” [into conversion] as she mourning her family and faith and screaming in her heart to her god to save her and return her to her people and her god/s.”
- Ramban on 21:11, states that her conversion is by compulsion, however Ramban sees a process in which she is comforted and encouraged to accept her new reality, that she will never see her people again and therefore she will adjust to the point that her idol worship will be removed a little from her heart and she will cleave to this man. To what extent such resignation and acquiescence should be considered consent is a tough question. According to Rabbi Yonason in Sifrei and Sifrei Dbei Rav cited in Yalkud Me’am Loez she is not to be converted against her will, also according to the Rambam, cited in Yalkud Me’am Loez p. 795, the conversion is voluntary.
- we are told in the Torah that if the Jewish man does not want to marry her that she goes free (Deuteronomy 21:14). According to Ibn Ezra’s commentary on the words “she goes free”, the assumption is that the man “should do her will”, which implies that we assume that she did not want the marriage.
- Deuteronomy 12:25 & 12:28
- Vayikra Rabba 9:3, Tana Dbei Eliyahu Rabba 1
- Etz Yosef commentary on Vayikra Rabba 9:3
- Talmud, Eruvin 100b
- Ethics of the Fathers 3:17
- Yachin, Tiferet Yisrael commentary on the Mishna.
- Meiri on Avot 3:20 in Beit Habechira p.56, Vagshal publication 1971, based on Mekitzei Nirdamim, 5696
- Maimonides in the Moreh Nevuchim, cited in Ramban on 21:11, also in Chizkuni
- Chizkuni, he argues that it is similar to rituals performed as part of the transformation of the Levites when they were appointed to their roles in the desert temple (Numbers 8:7).
- Deuteronomy 22:6–7
- Mishna in Talmud, Berachot 33b, translation from Sefaria.org
- Rashi on Talmud, Berachot 33b
- Maharsha, on Talmud, Berachot 33b
- Deuteronomy 23:16-17
- Ramad Vali, Mishneh Torah, Devarim.
במקום אשר יבחר. הוא ולא אתה. כי בחירת אחרים מצערת את האדם כשהיא כנגד בחירתו.
באחד שעריך. דהיינו בעיר ולא בכפר, כדי שתהיה הצלתו בטוחה ולא מתרופפת.
וגם בעיר עצמו. בטוב לו. ולא בטוב לך, שאם ירצה ידור בבית זה ואם ירצה ידור בבית אחר ולא תכריחנו לדור בפי רצונך. שאם תעשה כך, זהו חסד שלם המשתוה אל הנהגת אדון הכל, ואתה עושה נחת רוח ליוצרך, וקידוש השם לעיני העמים."